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okay thank you so much Trisha for joining us how are you doing over on the uh East Coast in New

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York I am great thank you how are you we're in the midst of a a little snowstorm right now I'm excited that's

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great yeah I've um I lived in many different places and not somewhere that snows and is cold consistently so my

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mind and body is getting used to the idea of shoveling snow all the time changing the heating wearing a couple

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more pairs of clothes it's interesting but I'm working on it um well thank you so much for joining

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us on the show I'd love to just jump in right away and talk about your journey into within the world of healing and how

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you became an empath all right it was about 10 years

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ago um I love to be around people I love to I'm very extroverted although I've

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learned I really need my me me time downtime from this journey it it was

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like um right around September and it was almost as if I woke up one morning

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and I just was there was no emotion I wasn't feeling anything I was just there

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I was going through motions and I'm like what is like I remember thinking what is going on I am not good I'm not bad I was

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literally just existing and I didn't get it and I was like all right and then about a month

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and a half later around the holidays it was like the pressure cop the the top to

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the pressure cooker blew off and all the years of shoving down

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emotions of resisting and ignoring and not dealing with it came to a boiling

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point I was a sobbing mess I was a hot

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mess it was like I would go from one emotion to the next to the next to the

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next it was total insanity and I remember my husband kept

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saying what happened what's the matter with you and I'm like I don't know and that was my response I don't

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know and this went on for a good two months and I mean Thanksgiving through

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New Year's of almost everyday sobbing and I was go would go to work and run to

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the the lady's bathroom and hide in the stall and cry and I'm like all right I I

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finally just I couldn't stomach myself I couldn't stomach looking at myself and the level of anxiety of what was coming

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next why is this happening um not

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sleeping it was like my body was completely depleted and yet these

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emotions just kept coming up and bubbling up and Bub bubling over and I remember saying to the universe not my

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proudest moment but I remember saying I've had it I can't do this

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anymore I would rather you take my life in the middle of the night because this

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is not me this is not who I am and this uncontrollable sobbing and

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anxiety and depression I can't do it so I remember the next day and I'm

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like I was like damn I woke up and I'm like so you've got a bigger

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plan for me I pray and don't know what it is but you need to help me because

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this I I felt like I was going crazy and the men in white Coats were going to come take me away and on top of

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that I was hearing voices in my head I was creating stories too to make

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sense of all the emotions I was feeling like why was I anxious why was I sad why

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was I angry and everything in between and and it was like I would bring up stuff from the past or I would create

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stories for the future and talk about Misery upon misery

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like I hid nobody heard from me um uh I

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just and it was like I'm I'm home and it it was just a mess a royal mess

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wow yeah I mean emotions and those kind of like ruminating thoughts through

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stressful periods of time I think a lot of people can can um relate to that such

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a scary time because there's this insane disconnect between the person who you

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know you are and the person that you're currently internally experiencing and yeah like to isolate yourself and to

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kind of like hide away that person because that's not you is a super natural thing to do I

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think is to is is to is to hide yourself um from from yeah those other people

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that you know know you know you for you you're obviously going through a lot of

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different things a lot of different changes and you know you're starting to maybe exhibit and become a different personality and it's that and that's

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that that's a scary thing for you because that's not because that's not you yeah and I questioned that I really

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did I I was questioning you know what happened to me why am I like this like

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all of these questions are kind of if you're not paying attention then

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you're not hearing those answers for yourself so that that anxiety level got

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super high to the point that I actually called the doctor and I was like I don't

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know what else to do but I'm a royal mess and I explained somewhat going on

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because I figured if I told him that I was hearing voices in my head I would have the men in white coats at my door

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and by no means am I being being fous or funny that is exactly where I was at and

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they put me on anti-depressants and that didn't help

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either but when I said to the universe I'm like

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help me help me figure this out because I can't do this and that's when I started getting phone calls if you

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believe in you know God Universe Source energy I don't care what it is and you start asking for help and being open to

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receive that help you be surprised what comes back and that's when I started

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getting people randomly contacting me through Facebook and email you know

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saying I haven't seen you what's going on or or this was the most interesting I got a message for you I need to deliver

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it and I'm like I don't even know what that means but at this point I'm open to anything yeah I understand yeah so

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you're so you've gone through this let's call it a two month episode and a lot of

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things going on you approach the conventional medical system and you know classic pharmaceutical prescription um

7:10

and that doesn't really work for you um and then you then you start getting these messages from from people and that

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kind of what does that what does that do for you does that start shifting your mind a little bit do you do you recognize that you've got support and

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you've got this support system so you're not completely alone in in this it wasn't until I started getting

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on the phone with people and um sharing with them because back then I I was like

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I can't let anybody know no I'm losing my mind because that was my biggest thing shame and embarrassment don't tell

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anybody that you spend time crying or you wait for your husband to go to bed so you can let it all out or you're

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hiding at work in a stall like this to me was this was not me I was embarrassed

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it didn't want want to share now I share it everywhere because people need to know like if you don't understand what's

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going on this is your body saying all of those years you took this on and all

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these years that you hid from it we need to let it go so I had people somebody

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said to me I'm an empath and I'm like I don't even understand what that word means

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and she says you know I I got these messages and I remember thinking when I

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hung up the phone I don't know who's crazier right now har me that's exactly what I said and I said to my told my

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husband this and I went to bed cuz I just was totally drained I think he waited for me to get

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up the next morning and he's like I booked a ton of websites for you you need to go on I emailed you all of them

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you need to go on you need to do this research because Trisha this is you 2

8:51

a so interesting yeah good for your husband that sounds that sounds like

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great husband work yes yeah because when I I was done I was

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like yeah I don't even you know like I thought she was crazy and I was crazier and when I told him he's like okay and

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he's like he did started doing the research and I remember saying all right so I remember reading it and going oh my

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God all right we have a starting point we have something yeah

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so what were you reading like what was what was the what was the the the

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context of the of what you were reading that was helping you recognize that what

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you were reading was kind of describing yourself and what you were going through this emotional

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overwhelm like I I was I went to the mall during Christmas time and I swear to God I was not in that Mall 10 minutes

9:46

before the tears started and I literally turned around and running out of the mall saying I can't handle this I don't

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know what this is but I just can't handle this and I didn't care who got presents that year I was stunn and my

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husband was running after me he's like what are we doing and I'm like I I get I just can't so being in large places was

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doing it to me um it was this sense of constantly

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knowing people on a deeper level that I ignored for years because I didn't trust my

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intuition I didn't trust the energy I was reading and that was like bubbling up big time and then I started to

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remember growing up I I remember going to Disney World Disneyland I don't remember

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which one it was in Florida and I pretty much cried every day I didn't it was too

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many people it was this level of like uncertainty and anxiety and as a

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kid I didn't understand what I was feeling so here I am you know my parents are yelling at me why are you being so

10:53

sensitive stop it and you know and on top of that like this makes sense to me

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now and on top of that would be I would cry from fourth grade to 12th grade

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every few weeks of the first the school year like the first few weeks I would just I was afraid of dying like what kid

11:15

do you know is afraid of dying so like all of these things started to make sense to me and I was I

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was putting it into place and I was like I get it I totally get this now I

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understand like these were things that were tipping me off as I looked back and as I as I realized you know um my

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sensitivity to light my sensitivity to smell you know I people would say to me

11:42

you're a hound dog how do you smell that and I'm like are you kidding me how do you not smell that you know like things

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things simple things that I always took as normal was not normal wow interesting

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so what was your so from from kind of that point where you're you know researching more and you're kind of

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sounds like you're connecting a lot more dots throughout your whole life with what you always been experiencing with with what you're doing now what's the

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journey then from to becoming an empath coach and you know and getting getting

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into that path I was desperate so I started to join empath

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groups I wanted to understand what everybody else is going through was it the same as me

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and I was in these groups and we we all did the woe is me we all did the

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victimhood oh my God all these emotions these you know I'm feeling

12:39

everything and let's not add what was going on in the world at any given moment with governments with earth

12:48

related issues like fires and hurricanes and tornadoes because that also impacts

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us on a big level so I was in these groups and I'm like my God we're all you know this is this is it and and what a

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huge turning point for me was first off I I remember clear as day that day I was

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having I wasn't having a great day to begin with and this woman asked a question I don't remember what it was

13:15

but some other woman came in and she says you know I have been happy once I understood this gift I went made went

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out to make myself happy and I love it and I went huh

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that's cool and I watched everybody attack her she left the group I left the group

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I friended her because I was like I I want to I

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want to eat what she's eating true yeah I want that yeah and I

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remember saying I'm going to create my own group and that's exactly what I did and

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that is exactly actly how it started because as I started to build my own

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happiness and understanding this gift on a deeper level instead of allowing it to take me to my knees I I'm going to build

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myself up I'm going to create my own happiness no idea what I'm doing but I'm doing it and I want people who want to

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be happy in my group and that is how it started amazing tell us tell us a little

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bit about the about the group that you started

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um God it's going back years now I know it's no longer active but um I I chose

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to do a different a little bit of a different path and I just remember um sharing lots

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of tools sharing um when people were having a bad day let's let's talk it out

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let's hash it out let's figure it out and let's create things that resonated and worked with people so that they got

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past that victimhood and that woe is me and some people were all on it or they

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were willing to do it and then we always have you know there's always people who love being being happy in their

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unhappiness and being happy in that let's have a bash session because that's

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where I'm currently at and um sometimes we need that to let that go but when it

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becomes that constant it's um not helping you your or or anybody else

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around you yeah absolutely I'd love to know a little bit spe more specific

15:35

about what an empath coach is I'm full I'm aware of many different wonderful incredible practitioners out there I've

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certainly never met an empath coach before so I'm very interested to kind of know maybe you can take me through like

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what what a session might look like U maybe a you know a typical individual that will come in you know kind of how

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how it looks like coming to see you as an empath

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coach well I first find out where they're at and some one of the biggest things with empath is understanding

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their own energy um do they know their own energy or are they just sucking everything up

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and being reactive to everything instead of responsive then we create different

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tools so that they can understand their own energy we I make sure everybody has practices

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and rituals that when they get up in the morning they're not starting their day because I find that when I get up in

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the morning and I don't have time for my rituals my day seems to spiral out of

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control whereas I make sure I get up and I have my specific rituals and one of

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them is drinking my coffee um journaling having some peace and quiet

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being grateful you know right by my bed and and I tell my clients to this too put

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right by your bed you know I choose to be happy what are my thoughts first thing

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in the morning and what am I grateful for it's like we're already focusing instead of rushing into oh my God I got

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this appointment I got to do this I got to go to the doctors I got to go get food or whatever our day holds for us

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let's step back and what are we doing what are we looking for

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what are we grateful for and that sometimes takes a while to retrain our

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brains we're creating new neural Pathways so these are things I go over with my clients what are you starting

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your day off as you know what's your intention for the day and I love this

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what is your feeling for the day and I stop people go what so for example I I'm

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a big believer in internal peace inner peace and I have um rock

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that have the word piece on it and I put it in my pocket or I leave it on my desk and anytime I'm coming out of that piece

18:07

because I'm you know rushing on that hamster wheel or something's just come into my environment that is creating a

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little bit of Havoc I will step back and say how can I bring peace back into my life so these are things we start doing

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a big thing for empaths are people Pleasers they're always wanting to help and take care of others leaving their

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self-care at the bottom of the PO you know very bottom of their Foundation or at the bottom of the ladder and that

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does not work and the reason I say that is because I did that I was the biggest

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people pleaser I would always try to rush and fix and help everybody else

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and that got me ill that created cancer in my

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body and that above all I think was a real game changer

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for me in my life so that is one of the things I tell my clients you need self-care self care is a very big thing

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because if you're not taking care of yourself you're not helping your family you're not helping your clients you're

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you're depleting yourself and your energy and God forbid it does manifest in an illness and hopefully it's just a

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cold or a stomach flow and not ignoring yourself completely and the

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warning signs that you get some serious illness so these are the things that we'll go through boundaries you know and

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it's interesting I said to one of my clients um she told me she was completely depleted and I said tell me

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about your day and she told me and literally she went from client to client to client I mean barely five minutes in

19:42

between and I said when do you use the bathroom and she's like what and I'm

19:50

like how are you telling the universe that you're worthy of all these things if you're not even taking care of

19:55

yourself for basic needs and that was a huge ey opener because they were like oh my God creating more space between

20:03

clients clearing energies which is very very you know

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important for empaths taking care of themselves so these are the things that are different topics that I deal with

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with my clients yeah so it sounds like um so many different people come in and

20:22

I really love what you said about you know at the beginning of the day before before you even getting out of bed you

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know you you're putting some kind of key words and key thoughts and key emotions into your body to start kind of that

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Foundation of like what's going on and whether that's Joy or happiness or gratitude thinking about those things

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that how you want to like fundamentally um be during your day and

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you can always kind of like Resort back to that rather than you know we we get out of bed at the same side we get out

20:51

of the bed at the same side we go put the coffee machine on we we go brush our teeth we get our food ready you know we

20:57

do all these very very subconscious things without even thinking about like

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what type of emotion we kind of choose to exhibit and being aware of that and if we do start to feel like anxieties

21:11

and worries or anything like that we can always just remember to come back to kind of like our key word or you know

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our um our like Mantra you could say um I I got a question just hearing you

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talking about empaths and what they experience it kind of sounds s to me like it's an

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unknown unconscious superpower to be an empath and you've got this phenomenal

21:37

ability and I just imagine like certain superhero stories where they wake up and

21:43

they've got these phenomenal superpowers and how scary that would be it would be pretty cool but also like insanely scary

21:51

to start recognizing that you had all these things going on for you that you maybe weren't aware of before and that

21:59

kind of when you were talking about um empaths that that's kind of superow and that like super experience that that you

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might have is it sounds like if you weren't aware of that and you didn't have the tools to kind of control it it

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would be a really scary overwhelming type of thing but when you do use the tools that you're talking about and you

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research a little bit and you kind of do some self-work it sounds like you can become a really really powerful

22:24

individual and support and help the many other people who experience this on like a you know a

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high superpower level what do you think about that I totally agree um with empaths

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once you understand your own energy and you really you can talk to

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your clients or you could talk to anybody as a matter of fact and you can actually see feel what they're feeling

22:51

on a level that you're like oh my God this person's really in pain or oh my

22:56

God this person you know doesn't is is unable to see the farest from the trees because they're in their head so badly

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and you can offer if they're asking offer suggestions offer ideas offer

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Solutions um it was years ago I was at the bottle return with my husband and the room was

23:19

packed I remember it being packed and this random lady walks right up to me and she goes I really need to talk to

23:26

you and I'm like and I'm looking around going me I'm like okay and she tells me

23:32

this this horrific story and I'm like I really have nothing

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to say except I'm so sorry you had to go through something like this um because

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it was never in my experience and she just said thank you so much I didn't I

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don't have any bottles to return but I came in here I felt the need to come talk to you tell you this story and I

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feel so much better and she walked out and the whole place is is like just staring at me and I'm

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like you know my husband goes this happens all the time like and as I look

24:06

back I remember so many people I never met in my life would come up to me and tell me their stories and some were just

24:13

amazing I led listening to the the elderly generation come up and tell me their life story it's you know and these

24:19

things that they experienced and they would Pat my hand and go thank you so much sweetheart and they'd walk away like I feel good and I took that for

24:27

granted and that's a superpower you our energy is actually

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helping them in whatever way they need whether it's just somebody even listening to them and acknowledging that

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they're there and hearing them so this is a superpower absolutely I mean you can if

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you have clients and they're telling you a story and you know that they're they're

24:51

they're lying but that's not even the right word because they don't even understand it themselves they're trying

24:57

to not see what's going on they're trying to block the reality so you can actually come down and be like all right

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what about this or have you thought of that or maybe it's this giving them options to look at to open this up to a

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broader perspective there's a huge transformation that is available to

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people that you know we don't even realize how we can help people and and

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forget that even just being able to feel feel things for other

25:31

people and happiness and joy and excitement are just as much as the

25:36

negative emotions you know empaths don't ever question the positive ones but being around somebody who is so excited

25:43

and happy makes you just as excited and happy for them and you you're right there with them the same thing is is

25:50

when they're just so distraught and torn up just holding their hand sometimes is

25:56

all they may need whether you know that are not like I've seen people who are so

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like I'm like oh my God I feel their pain and I'll just say hello and they're like oh my God somebody sees me and I'm

26:08

like hi and they go oh hi and I could see like they lighten up a little bit so

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is this a super power to me absolutely love it that's great um in regards to

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you just mentioned a few examples of situations that could be very overwhelming for people do empaths

26:27

experience um I'm just trying to putting the the empath and like a larger group

26:32

setting whether that's at Disney World or the market you know there's actually

26:37

a lot of people a lot of energy coming together and we talk on this show a lot about kind of like the invisible forces

26:44

that control our our world and you know the majority of everything we experience is energy but unfortunately we can't see

26:50

it so we don't really believe it or we're not aware of it but you know you go to a you know I think of um like for

26:56

myself like going to like a a soccer game or going to a sports event you know people are there in a very very positive

27:02

manner and it's it's electric being in that type of environment is it's addicting it's electric it's wonderful

27:08

everyone's connected everyone's there to have fun and it's wild you know you get tingles but going to a larger setting

27:16

sometimes where it's not maybe on that huge positive like level that everyone's there for you know an empath going into

27:22

an environment where there's like a lot of mixed emotions happening is that where like the kind of overwhelm from

27:28

because you're getting it off other people the start of Co and

27:34

quarantine that was horific hospitals funeral homes airports

27:42

airplanes um and believe it or not grocery stores and these are things that I've

27:48

talked to other empaths as well as myself have had experiences with with all of these things and you can

27:54

definitely get overwhelmed I went into when I first realized I was an empath um

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and I was trying to deal with all of this I went into New York City and I could have kicked myself over and over

28:06

and over again because I couldn't wait to get on the train to come home it was I was completely overwhelmed

28:15

and when I get overwhelmed it either affects me emotionally it'll affect me mentally

28:21

where my judgment is non-existent my decision making is confused confused My

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Clarity there is none you know and it's funny because I've done this with you know I even did it with a friend of mine

28:35

and she's like what happened to you like she just went I she was asking me let's do and I'm like I don't know I don't

28:41

know I I really she's like you know it was funny and I'm like oh my God so

28:47

these are different ways that it absolutely can affect us however this is where self-care

28:56

practices come in this is where grounding practices come in this is

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where we use clearing techniques immediately so that we could still live

29:08

our lives and not be that dear in the headlight fear oh my God I I have this uncertainty I'm scared um I don't know

29:15

what's going on and we're able to still function and move on and one of the

29:21

things I absolutely utterly believe 100% the happier we are as individuals

29:28

the easier emotions flow through us and stop like it stops getting us and and

29:34

we're like oh my God what is that so that's really important um to me so if

29:39

I'm having a bad day I'm not going to the hospital or I'm not going to you

29:45

know grocery shopping and then it is also being okay with that and being like all right I'm having a good day not

29:51

doing these things but and at the same time it is knowing when to say

29:58

no and it's knowing when to say I need this this recharge and downtime for myself so that I can go later and for me

30:06

I know going to the grocery store on a Saturday or Sunday is no no going to the like for me I'll do it early in the

30:12

morning or I'll do it later at night so like these are things that I've I've learned from myself and these are things

30:18

that people have to experience and learn for themselves as well so they know when to do something and when not to you know

30:26

um I had a friend go on an airplane and she's like I she's messaging me she's like I am sitting on this airplane she

30:32

goes I'm ready to jump out the window and I says people are afraid to fly there's tremendous anxiety with with

30:39

airplanes and she's like help me so I said okay I says where's your anxiety

30:46

level she goes forget it it's through the roof I said okay one of the tools um

30:52

that I like to share and that I shared with her is knowing what you're picking up is

30:59

yours or not and when I first started to use this tool it was like insane

31:06

because um it came up like 95% of the day and you're right everything is

31:14

energy and we feel everything because emotions are energy and motion and when

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we also check in about what we're feeling within our bodies we have to check in with our minds and what's it

31:27

saying about what what we're picking up and how we can change our belief systems and create new neural Pathways to create

31:34

those new beliefs as well yeah that's really cool that that example on the plane is really is

31:40

wonderful because I think the majority of the anxious thoughts that we have and

31:45

the the anxious emotions that we feel yeah like a fraction of them are

31:50

actually like either valid or even not us so what a wonderful um tool to be

31:57

able to in the moment be able to start rather than suppressing and just purely

32:03

experiencing something like anxiety we can start maybe assessing it a little bit and digesting some some thoughts and

32:09

kind of getting rid of them and kind of getting to the to the root root of it all I think that's a really wonderful tool thank you for thanks for sharing

32:15

that with your um with your work can you tell us a little bit more about how it can support the mental health and

32:23

wellness of your clients a little bit more yeah a lot of my a lot of my

32:29

clients are overwhelmed they're stressed out um they're trying to do everything for everybody so they're

32:36

anxious they are their energy depleted and it's

32:43

like if we don't stop and start taking care of

32:49

ourselves it's going to again manifest in an illness so um one the first off my

32:57

I'm a big believer of the word no because when we continuously take on and

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try to do for so many other people and our plate is full and not only is it full it's

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overflowing and now we're stressing out and we're pushing ourselves even more giving ourselves less downtime giving

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ourselves even less sleep I don't know about anybody else when I don't have enough sleep I am crabby and I am cranky

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and I have very little patience so now you're adding that onto it so you're

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trying to deess that you're already there and trying to yes okay I'll do it

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yes between clients between family members between friends you're trying to be everything for everyone and this is

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where we start with my clients and I'm like no no because if you

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don't what is your mental health you're miserable you're you're at the point

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where you're like I'm depleted I'm tired and I'm just ready to give up and it's like oh boy you don't want to be there

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because that's that is a very bad place to be for everybody and I know so many

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empaths who say you know I'm so full of anxiety and I just I don't want to do anything anymore and it ends up coming

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down that they don't even want to do anything for themselves and that's a bad thing for all of us when we're at that

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place where it's deep and dark so it is learning to say know it is we're

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learning to have those boundaries that honor and protect yourself in a way that

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creates space for you to be able to breathe it is learning

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to have that time to be I'm having a day full of anxiety and I'm okay with that

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instead of when you feel anxiety you become more anxious because you're feeling that anxiety and then it it just

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compounds very quickly to a point where it's like I don't even know which end is up and I've done it when I say these

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things I I've been there and i' I've done it where it's like that even breathing almost hurts because it's like

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your chest is tight and and you're breathing from your upper chest instead

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of through your stomach so these are physical reactions that you're having to that level of anxiety and it's like that

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fear comes in now because now it's like I can't breathe I can't breathe and like you're rushing to get some cold either

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cold water or some cold air on your face so and I and I do speak from experience

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as well when I when I say all these and it's that boundary piece is important that self-care piece is even more

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important and that communicating your needs because we're so used to saying

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yes to everybody else we say no to ourselves so now it's about saying I

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need help with this with your family and friends I need help with that I'm not and being okay to say I woke up on the

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wrong side of the bed today and I am not doing doing well so can we please like

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communicate better and I remember doing this with my husband in the beginning and he's like my wife's

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crazy and I was okay with that because he learned to communicate better with me and I and because if he came home from

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work and he had a rough day himself I was clingy and he would be like I he

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would get upset and like he would just pull back and I would try to cling on harder yeah and it wasn't until he would

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be able to say walk in the door and say I had a really day and I need I need to just give myself some time and I would

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be like and I'd be like all right so I went and created a supportive environment for myself where I could go

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speak to a friend or speak to somebody and say I'm not having the best of days either right now and just kind of have

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that conversation and say I feel so much better because now I let it all out all

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of that and and a big part of that that mental piece is we create these stories in our head that 90% of them are not

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true yeah we have a big issue I think in our culture of completely giving our

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energy our resources away we obviously we can do things to I like to think of

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it as like a you know like a cup of a cup of resources and we only have a kind of

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certain amount of day and like you know sleeping is going to restore that and eating well is going to restore that meditating you know eating

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well hanging out and communicating with friends is all going to like help restore yourself and bringing energy

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back towards you but we have this culture of mass distraction yeah and we have a culture

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where we where it's go go go it's busy busy busy who you know if you're not busy you're not successful in society

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right if you're not always doing stuff but this is so incredibly depleting and

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we're doing this on a very unconscious level because we're kind of like our bodies are just going through the world subconsciously doing stuff

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and to replenish and re um refill that

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cup of resources we have to one become really conscious about what we're doing

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with our time and our energy and then we have to put that into practice you know it's not enough to just know we have to

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know how so having tools like that to recognize where you at where you're at where your partner's at and what you can

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do to create that supportive n nature for you whether that's to go into

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meditation or go and do some yoga or make yourself a cup of coffee and stare out of the window all these things are

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so much more you know shifting that energy from in to out to out to in and

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I've experienced over the last four or five years how powerful for me meditation in yoga is is for that and

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how even just like I have to I have to close my eyes and shut these things out and you know really kind of focus on my breathing to become really present to

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kind of block my mind going into the future or my mind going into the past where you know we have all these emotions attached to those experiences

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which end up depleting even further so you can deplete yourself in your own mind no doubt about that but when we

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start to become conscious and put these practices into place we start to re-energize ourselves we start to become connected to actually who we really

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really are and it's it's energizing it's really re that's that's powerful it's

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recharging and it's um without question at all that I think everyone should have

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and it should be something we should be even teaching to our kids into our in schools yes but when you're an empath and you're

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unaware of that fact these things that you know something that might make me feel anxious might some make someone

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else go into like a panic attack and yeah it can be really really devastating

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to not just yourself but to the people around you yes totally totally agree

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with everything that you just said it's so important like I I meditate every day

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we got to get out of our head and I and I've had clients say I can't meditate and I said do you walk they're like yeah

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I'm like well walk and pay attention to the to Nature around you or one of the things I love to do is there's a table

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right behind me and and I I rock paint I paint rocks and shells and and some

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other really easy technique is I'll put a fire on YouTube and black out my whole

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screen with the fireplace and I'll just sit and zone out watching the fire and it's completely relaxing I mean you

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could do that with nature scenes water scenes what whatever you love and that's another way to meditate

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without like people like I can't do it yeah you can yeah there are a lot of tools out there that are available you

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you mentioned on your website um about learning what emotions do not belong to

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you can you tell us a little bit more about what emotions do and don't belong to us I've created a tool called the empath

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symbol and mine is a bear I happen to like large animals and there are no

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bears on Long Island so I can't easily see one and what I did was this was part

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of my healing process um was learning the energies and I was given this empath

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symbol like when I was said to the universe I'm like please help me figure this out then and um I during my

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meditation in the morning I would say to the universe please show me my bear when

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what I am feeling does not belong to me now you can do anything you can have flowers instruments

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mammals fish um places as your symbol people get caught up in should it be my

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spirit animal it could be whatever you want it to be so I I just happen to love

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large animals and I remember the first few days of utilizing it um I went into

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Best Buy over here and I was already getting a antsy and just like all right

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something's going on in the air and I every single TV was a bear and I did not

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trust that that's what that was for so in my head I said to the universe okay prove it to me and some woman walked

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right by me saying lions and tigers and bears I'm like okay I got you I hear you loud and

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clear and I realized that 90% to 95% of what we're feeling is just so much of

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what's going on around us or in the collective you know people are like I'm home I'm protected and like nope not in

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the four walls of your house it's not it's energy and motion you're still going to feel people's emotions that

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don't have to be connected to you either and um I remember I was sleeping one

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night and I literally jumped out of bed at like 2:33 in the morning and I was

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petrified and I saw immediately my I have a symbol also for Collective

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Consciousness and I saw that symbol and I went so I was able to calm myself down

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quickly but I realized I'm like there is something going on in the world right now that is creating tremendous fear and

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terrifying people and I finally went back to sleep and the next morning I went online and um Italy

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had volcanic eruption earthquake I don't even remember it was seven eight years ago and I'm like oh my God you know that

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and I double checked the times and it was actually coinciding and I'm like wow so you're definitely feeling everything

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constantly it's just about you know using the symbol to know it's not yours

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trusting that the universe is got your back and we'll show you the symbol I

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mean I got symbols on TV I would see it all the time like I would never see bear commercials now all of a sudden I'm

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seeing them a random person would email me a bear and nobody knew about my bear

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in the beginning I didn't tell anybody and I would get emails of be pictures I

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would get they're like look at this church isn't this cute and it would be a bear and I'm like all right you're using

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people to get me my message and there would be times where I wasn't like like

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I'd be like all right I'm feeling something and then Flash in in my head would be a bear I'm like okay and in the

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beginning I was totally doubting Debbie so I would ask for confirmation and and

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it would be I would definitely get it you know so that is a tool that I use to this day I still use it but as I've

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gotten more accustomed to my own energy I don't need the bear to tell me because

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my body will signal you've got something here let's clear it and that is like

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another big tool for empaths is doing body meditations and it's grounding your energy and grounding can be outside with

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your feet in the grass or currently because it's too much snow out when of the things I did was I created my very

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own grounding bowl and this is filled with sand and shells and I'll play with it when I'm stressed or I want to ground

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my energy so you could do things to ground your energy that are easy I'm all about quick and easy so that you can get

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back to your life and then just kind of go through your body and feel where are

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you tight where are you tense what is bothering you and not only what is

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bothering you but where are you resisting and and for me I know a big place is my stomach and I actually

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there's a certain spot on my stomach that I I now know is saying all right I'm tight here you've got something so

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I'll pay attention and I notice when like you said we are we are a society of

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push push push rush rush rush phone phone phone you know anything to keep us

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from being still or from keep us to just sitting back and relaxing and being

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present through our own lives and it's those times where we're rushing

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that uh we don't even recognize so my body will say all right Trisha we got

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something and there was one day I remember I was at work I woke up late I

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didn't do any of my rituals I did nothing and I raced to go to work the whole day was like a um just everything

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was just frazzled and I remember rushing home I left work late I'm rushing home

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almost got into a car accident mind you and and front of me on the back of

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this person's car was a big bear I'm like okay all right that's really cool I

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love the uh I love the idea of symbolism and signs in the world and yeah if you

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genuinely have something like that that's that's that you have inside of your mind and you couple that with an

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elevated emotion you absolutely it's a wonderful tool to be able to recognize when you know maybe we should slow down

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and use the tools that we've learned and you know I really appreciate you sharing some of those tools with us today and some really fun examples of how they can

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be really powerful really quickly because yeah people we feel emotions

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just instantaneously you know we just immediately react to things so having

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having something in place to be able to um learn to maybe respond rather than

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react a little bit I think that's really could be really powerful and really help people through uh emotional periods

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especially like the the one we're all going through right now how um how can people connect with you

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Trisha you can send me an email at Trisha trader.com you can find me on social

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media and send me a message I'm on Instagram at Trisha daa and I'm also on Facebook at Trisha daa so you could

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definitely find me there as well I'm always um hopping around so we can um

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definitely send me an a email or a direct message perfect well I'll put your website and I'll put your contact

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onto social media um in the show notes of this episode episode so if anyone wants to get in contact with you or

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learn more they can do that but I want to say thank you so much for joining us today Trisha I learned a lot about

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empaths and um emotions and it's going to definitely make me feel a bit more

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aware of like what I'm feeling and also recognize that other people are going through lots of other different things as well and it's important to be

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compassionate and hold space for that so I I really appreciate you today thank

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you thank you well thank you so much for listening everybody this is true Hope cast the official podcast of true hope

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Canada we'll see you next week goodbye

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